Month: July 2017

Video:”Nice Guy” Child Sex Abusers – by Retired Prosecutor/F.B.I. Criminal Profiler Jim Clemente on Media Mayhem with Allison Hope Weiner

At my former church Grace Bible Fellowship of Silicon Valley the pastors/elders defended child pornography and said there was “nothing wrong with it” in  a meeting with me and they defended child sex abusers. The GBF pastors/elders invited a Megan’s List sex offender/child pornographer to volunteer at the 5-day basketball camp for children and told no one! The GBF pastors/elders advertise the basketball camp at church and in local newspapers. Trusting parents turned over the children to GBF and weren’t told that a Megan’s List sex offender could show up at any time because the GBFSV ‘pastors/elders’ said he was ‘harmless’!  There is something seriously wrong with Grace Bible Fellowship of Silicon Valley’s pastors/elders and culture. The California Attorney General’s Office called the GBFSV pastors/elders’ (Cliff McManis, Bob Douglas, Sam Kim and Tim Wong) story to me that a Megan’s List sex offender/child pornographer was “coming off Megan’s List” because “he said so” a story that was “all lies” and “total lies”. 

A good, short video by retired prosecutor/F.B.I. criminal profiler Jim Clemente, who works on the show “Criminal Minds”, about how child sexual predators work. –  by Velour

Thought after SLO — The View from the Other Side – by SarahsMom

Three years ago I made my first trip to SLO. During this trip I threw up my final Hail Mary to save my marriage…I just had to be positive, but different from the positive I’d been the previous 20 years. Yeah, that was it. So I bought my domain name and tried really hard to […]

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Depression is Not a Culture War Battle — Warren Throckmorton

One does not need to be a Christian to oppose suicide. People of all religions and none view suicide as a tragedy.

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A more beautiful picture than male headship and female submission — Marg Mowczko

Here in Australia we’ve been discussing the connection between “male headship” and domestic violence. This discussion has been spearheaded by journalist Julia Baird. There have been articles and blog posts on websites, plus reports, panel discussions and interviews on television. My favourite part of this discussion so far has been last night’s episode on ABC’s…

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The true me — Life Inspired Thoughts by Amy

Something about this saying, which I saw Facebook, really spoke to me… After my ex walked out eight years ago I started finding myself. And no, I don’t mean in some weird spiritual sense where I traveled the world trying to figure out who I am…makes me think of the movie, Eat, Pray, Love with […]

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A Senior Devil, Mere Faith, and Beginning My Life in Christ — Tim’s Blog – Just One Train Wreck After Another by Tim Fall

[This first appeared two years ago as a guest post I wrote for Jennifer Neyhart’s blog.] Is it cliché to say that C.S. Lewis had a formative influence on my understanding of what it means to belong to Jesus? Not that it matters if it is cliché. It’s true. An Atheist Reads a Devil’s Letters The […]

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Matt Bays, former pastor on recovery from addictions in the Christian church. Author of Finding God in the Ruins. Bonus Video: U.S. Surgeon General on Addictions.

There is a public health epidemic in the United States of alcoholism and drug addiction, including in the Christian church among clergy and the people in the pews. There has been a significant increase in women alcoholics, including among older Christian women in Christian churches.  Many of our churches and Christians still lack the knowledge to discuss this epidemic and to offer proper support.

From: https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/news-events/news-noteworthy/surgeon-general-issues-landmark-report-alcohol-drugs-and-health

“According to the U.S. Surgeon General,  Nearly 21 million Americans – more than the number of people who have all cancers combined – suffer from substance use disorders.

‘Alcohol and drug addiction take an enormous toll on individuals, families, and communities,” said U.S. Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy. ‘Most Americans know someone who has been touched by an alcohol or a drug use disorder. Yet 90 percent of people with a substance use disorder are not getting treatment. That has to change.’

U.S. Surgeon General’s first-ever report on addiction in the United States: https://addiction.surgeongeneral.gov/

Former pastor Matt Bays, a recovering alcoholic, has powerful words about this secret that is rarely talked about in our churches. Help is needed for those addicted and their families.

Matt has a great blog http://mattbayswriter.com/  Matt Bays also has a great book called Finding God in the Ruins about his journey.

 

Alcoholism in the Church – by The Blog of St Chrysostom’s Church, Manchester UK. Bonus Video: U.S. Surgeon General on Addictions.

Another important article about handling the epidemic of alcohol (and drug) addiction in the Christian church. We are facing a public health epidemic. And we must do more to help problem drinkers get medical care (if they are willing) and other help, help for their spouses, and help for their children.

In the United States, the U.S. Surgeon General declared alcohol and drug addiction as a public health epidemic. https://addiction.surgeongeneral.gov/  According to the U.S. Surgeon General only 10% of addicted people get help and 90% do not get any care for their addictions.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9kuibZtt5ww

Addictions are complex, with genetic underpinnings that predispose people to become addicted, combined with other factors like childhood trauma/abuse that sets people on a course to drink and take drugs to numb pain and shame.

There are other factors that cause people to become addicted including: untreated mental illness (bipolar, depression, and anxiety disorders), adult trauma, loss, grief and other stressors. In the beginning, the substances do work to calm the addict and give them relief. And then they don’t work and become more and more destructive in a person’s life.

St Chrysostom's Church News and Views

Bishop Heather Cook, an American Bishop, has recently been sentenced to seven years imprisonment for a hit and run death of a 41-year-old cyclist. The incident has led to much discussion about alcoholism in the church and especially among the clergy. This is an important issue which the church needs to face more realistically than it is at present. Fr Chris offers some thoughts on this important issue:

Pink ElephantYou may know the jokes about seeing pink elephants, and the popular views about the delirium tremens and hallucination which occur during alcohol withdrawal. In my case, during detox, I didn’t see pink elephants but mice flying around the room and attacking me.  It’s a weird phenomenon – you know it isn’t real, but it feels and seems real.

We also often refer to the “elephant in the room” as the thing that we all know is there, but no one will dare…

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4 thoughts on being a church leader with alcoholism – by Shannon @Church4EveryChild blog. Bonus Video: U.S. Surgeon General on Addictions.

With the public health epidemic of alcoholism and drug addiction in the United States according to the U.S. Surgeon General https://addiction.surgeongeneral.gov/, an epidemic that is also showing up among the clergy and the people in the pews (and that includes growing numbers of women and older women), articles such as this one are needed to address how we deal with substance abuse in the church.

According to the U.S. Surgeon General only 10% of people who have addictions get help and 90% never get any help. This must change.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9kuibZtt5ww

Many people with addictions are genetically predisposed to addiction and research has shown that childhood trauma (such as child sexual abuse) is one of the factors that causes people to numb pain and shame with alcohol and drugs.

There are other issues behind addictions as well: untreated mental illness (bi-polar, depression, and anxiety disorders to name some), adult trauma, grief and loss, and stress.

Other people are prescribed powerful drugs to help with cope with injuries and later find themselves addicted to drugs.

Many churches are uneducated about how to offer help and resources to those with addictions of all ages and their families. –  by Velour

Church4EveryChild

newspring1This weekend, NewSpring Church in South Carolina announced in their services that Perry Noble has been removed from his position as pastor due to alcohol issues. More information, including full statements excerpted below, can be found at their website here. According to the church’s statement, Perry’s posture towards his marriage, increased reliable on alcohol and other behaviors, were of continual concern. Due to this, the Executive Pastors confronted Perry and went through the steps of dealing with sin in the church as outlined in Matthew 18.

The rest of the statement explains that, in accordance with their bylaws, their process ultimately ended in his removal from leadership. In Noble’s own statement, he expresses his love for the church, asks for forgiveness, and shares that he is under the care of an excellent psychiatrist as he works through his present issues. He writes,

In my opinion, the bible does…

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