I have mentioned in past articles that I have known professing Christian men (and women who have bought into it) who really believe that a wife is the husband’s property. Owned. He sees his children that way too, even when they grow up. His. Mine. Holds the title deed to them. One such man — […]
I’m a survivor. I made it out of the marriage after 12 yrs of craziness. I dont even know how to tell that story because it is just so surreal and others seem to have a hard time understanding the complexity of dealing with someone like my ex. I’m exhausted and incredibly sad looking back…
Here is another important article about divorce, since so many churches — especially Complementarian/Patriarchy/NeoCalvinist are burdening people, in particular wives, with the (false) idea that they must stay in abusive marriages and be submissive doormats.
“Evangelical and confessional churches are striving to maintain a high view of marriage in a culture that is ripping the institution to shreds. So extra-biblical barriers to divorce can be well-meant. They try to protect marriage by doing everything possible to avoid divorce. In doing so, they not only fail to keep a high view of marriage. They also spread lies about the gospel, divorce, the value of people, the character of God, and the nature of sexual sin.”
(This is more a journal entry than a blog post. I sometimes post them because in my convoluted mind it makes me feel more accountable.) On Saturday I did something I swore I was never going to do again. I brought up the abuse in general conversation with someone I’d only just met. I did […]
This important letter was written by one of our brave and beautiful mamas, who is a survivor turned thriver. Please read and be edified
Originally posted on A Cry For Justice: This stupendous article by an anonymous woman was published yesterday at The Gospel Coalition Australia. Things I Wish You Understood: An Open Letter to Ministers From a Family Violence Survivor To the ministers of the church universal I am a family violence survivor. It seems weird to me…
Three years ago I made my first trip to SLO. During this trip I threw up my final Hail Mary to save my marriage…I just had to be positive, but different from the positive I’d been the previous 20 years. Yeah, that was it. So I bought my domain name and tried really hard to […]